The Problem Is the Pronoun

"She said, I will go after my lovers, who give me my bread and my water, my wool and my flax, my oil and my drink." (Hosea 2:5)

Listen to how Gomer talks. My wool. My oil. My bread. Say it a few times and you will hear the whole problem, and the problem is not in the nouns. It is in the pronoun. She did not spin the wool or press the oil. Every one of those things was given to her. She has stood in the middle of another's provision, called it hers, and walked out the door to find people who might give her more of what she already had.

That is not a story about a woman in the eighth century before Christ. That is most of us, on an ordinary Tuesday. We forget who is really providing, and we run after the next thing, the next relationship, the next signal of status, while the faithful love that stocked the shelves stands quietly in the house we are leaving.

The forgetting is rarely dramatic. No one wakes up and decides to be ungrateful. It happens the way a house gets cluttered, one thing at a time, none of them decisive, until one day you look around at a life that was entirely handed to you and find that every item in it has your name on it. My health. My family. My gifts. My work. My church.

This is the quiet blasphemy of the settled heart, to hold a gift and call it a possession. So take the inventory honestly. Go down the list of what you call mine, and over each one name who actually gave it. A gift received keeps you near the Giver. A gift renamed sends you out the door to look for him in all the wrong houses.